Let’s not glorify people for how they look.

By Florence @ 2022-08-11T14:33 (+56)

I find it physically uncomfortable; I get a shiver down my spine and a lump in my throat when I hear people idolize how others look. It conjures up memories of the old days at University when the men (realistically, they were acting like boys) would huddle together in a room and drink a crate of beers. Only males were allowed, and they would spend the day at a yearly “bachelor party.” They weren’t celebrating anyone in particular; they were just celebrating the essence of being a lad, not talking about your emotions, and ranking the females in the hall. As a female, I never attended, and I don’t know the full details of the day, but it never sounded like something that would elicit FOMO in me. I do know they went through the entire ~100 girls in the hall and ranked them on hotness.  

I personally would like to be evaluated as a complete human being for the actions, thoughts, and vibe that I bring. I think the least important factor about a person should be their looks because it is something one generally can’t change.

You might be nodding along in agreement that clearly, this seems like a bad thing, but what’s my point? Where am I heading with this? Recently, within the EA community, I’ve had a few shivers down my spine and lumps in my throat. I've heard many high-status males in EA being described as “hot” and “sooo attractive.” Jokes on Twitter about “I only joined EA because of how hot {X person} is,” I’ve heard people mention they could “put a poster of {EA Person} on my bedroom wall.” I know that mostly these are jokes, but it still provides the same discomfort I get when I notice idolization.

*Note: I excluded specific names from the article as I didn't want to draw any more unwanted attention to specific people in the community. 

Here are the many reasons I object to this idolization of “leaders” & glorification of people for how they look.

The Halo effect - if you like someone (perhaps just because they are aesthetically pleasing to the eye), you are more likely to be agreeable to them. A classic example would be you have a big crush on someone, so you just say yes, blush and smile. I am not saying we should be going in the other direction and bullying people that we like (also not ok).

Vanity Bias - assuming that because someone looks good and appeasing that they would also be a good person - this is incredibly biased and not representative.

An example of this (with a very small sample size of only ~64 people) is a study of mock interviews, where attractive people were more likely to be hired than less attractive individuals. [1] Another study showed that attractiveness can also influence judgments about the seriousness of crimes committed, depending on the crime itself [2]. 

Mere-exposure effect - we tend to develop a preference for things that are familiar to us, also known as the familiarity principle. If people look similar, we are more likely to prefer them, again decreasing the amount of diversity in the group. 

Cues of Kinship - if you look similar to someone, you are likely to act prosocially towards them, as you are likely to share genes and have common descendants. It seems important to be cognisant of this bias so we can do our best to avoid it. As this could create a very undiverse space within the EA community, and I think there is plenty of reasons why a diverse community is important. [4, 5] 

Physical attractiveness has important social consequences, and I think it’s better to point them out rather than leave them unspoken! 

Diversity - diverse opinions are crucial to highly performing structures and decision-making.

When you have racially diverse groups of people, people have more rigorous decision-making methods. Also, related to this “Big Tent” effective altruism is very important (particularly right now) & World View Diversification.

Cultesque - this type of idolization of someone because of their appearance reminds me of people with statues and posters of themselves everywhere, etc. Not that EA has statues (that I know of), but I think some people in the community would happily put large posters of certain EA members around the place, which I find strange.

Also, they aren’t the most attractive people in the world.

Possible personal bias: I am probably still hung up on my University experiences, which would make my opinions particularly emotionally charged, in addition to my desire to be more than my looks.

Other examples of when a focus on aesthetics is bad (not specifically within the EA community)

• It creates greater levels of tribalism. How someone looks seems like possibly the worst way to signal if someone is right or wrong.
• You can’t change (the majority) of how you look (although, of course, there are some exceptions - Michael Jackson), and you shouldn’t be penalized for something you can’t change IMO.
• When Vitalik Buterin was bullied for his photo in Times magazine. It has nothing to do with what he has achieved and contributed to this world.
   

What to do about it?

Here are my current best guesses...
1. Not making jokes about finding someone attractive, and if you do this, try to recognize this and prevent your self doing it next time!
2. Noticing if other people do it and call them out! They might not realise they are doing this (feel free to reference this article).
3. Hold all people to high levels of epistemic rigor! 

I'd love to hear in the comments about possible ways to mitigate these problems!

Other Relevant Resources

• “Big Tent” effective altruism is very important (particularly right now).
• Effective Altruism as a Question, not an Ideology
• World View Diversification